The point of V’s article is this: You should not be fucking without birth control unless you are in a fully committed relationship and have jointly decided to not just have, but raise a child.

Having grown to nearly age 50, I can count on one hand the number of people who grew up “not fucked up” in a one-parent home.

All the dumbasses think they know better than the thousands of years of reproductive activity that has preceded them, or thing they’re fucking unique or something.

The discussion about raising a baby should have been had before you you let him put his pee-pee in your pee-pee, get it?

Being a “bastard” should simply a legal definition at this point. I feel the stigma is nothing like it used to be even twenty years ago. Funny that a thousand years ago it wasn’t such a big deal, either.

There is a clearly visible historical trend between the price of bread and the rate of bastard children: when bread prices were high, illegitimate births increased. The possible reason for this could be that when it is expensive to get married and support a family, couples don’t get married, but they still have sex.

Looking again at history, there were many clan and tribal societies which were matrifocal and matrilineal. The fathers of children had less responsibility to them than did their mothers or even their uncles (on the mother’s side, of course). The brothers helped to support their sisters’ children, and the father was probably supporting HIS sisters’ children.

The nuclear family has been pushed as the perfect model since the first half of the 20th century. Even before that, the patrilineal system goes back centuries and milennia for most of us. The matrilineal model, however, is so much easier to adjudicate because there can be practically no doubt who the mother is, especially in a village. Without a way to prove paternity, it was easier to reduce or eliminate its legal importance.

But that is all theory. Here and now, men who step up to the plate and support their children and their spouses (and I don’t just mean financially) should be applauded. Those who choose not to support their children should be shamed and ridiculed.

In any event, I applaud your courage and resolve to raise your child alone. That young man wasn’t ready to be a dad. Trying to force him to be one would have just added pain and suffering to your life and your child’s life. Your decision allowed you to move on and get your life headed in the right direction.