I won’t analyze your dreams, but I will say a few general things I’ve learned about dreams and the subconscious.

First, the physical appearance of the people in your dreams are only loosely associated with their identities. When you dream, your brain is undergoing its daily chemical maintenance. People, places, and even seasons and times of day (night, noon) can pop and flash in disconnected ways. It means pretty much nothing.

The other thing I heard recently on CBC radio was a talk about how the subconscious mind has no concept of anyone else but itself. When you are angry with someone, it can only interpret that as anger towards oneself. The same with love, grief, disappointment, and forgiveness.

Make with these comments what conclusions you will.

Some other things about my dreams:
For three or four years as a child I would have terrifying nightmares every night. I eventually decided to take control of my dreams. I took charge and the monsters could not harm me. Of course, that’s about when my subconscious started throwing innocent and helpless loved ones into the path of the monsters. I can still control my dreams.

I have fallen and hit the ground in my dreams many, many times and I am still here. The first time, though, I hurt all over when I woke up. My body probably had tensed. Anyone who says, “you’ll die if you hit the ground” is NOT speaking from an informed point of view.